Fear is this emptiness which is in each one of us, and we try to fill it with innumerable recipes for God, good works, divine knowledge, worldly knowledge, amusement and entertainment, religious or otherwise. But it is always there, this emptiness and fear. In our emptiness, we practise for something which our fear has conceived to be great, and we remain in emptiness. Strip us of all jargon, robes, formulas and holy certainties, and what remains? Dull, aching emptiness and the fear of being nothing. The beauty of life goes by. Can you and I go beyond this seeking, these tortures, these actions of emptiness and fear? If not, we are bound to walk in darkness. In darkness, there is no light of understanding. Light is not at the end of fear and darkness; it is here when you know how to look. To see is the greatest thing.
From Can the Mind Be Quiet?
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Unus Nemo
in reply to Jacob Urlich 🌍 • • •@Jacob Urlich 🌍
I am a subscriber to the ideology that all negative behavior is a manifestation of insecurities. I am of course referring to those with a healthy neurological function. The average person, not the exceptions.
Loneliness is an insecurity based on self-perceived lack of worth. You can be lonely in a room full of your so-called friends and family. You can indeed be all alone and not be lonely at all. Carl Jung spoke extensively on the topic of having a smaller circle and the values of it and how this can intimidate others.
As a student of Functional Human Behavior I have considered many ideologies on what the cause of negative behavior is. In my opinion it is a lack of coping skills. Of course I am addressing issues that do not involve neurological dysfunction.
Do you believe that one must be isolated to be lonely? Do you believe the loneliness is the issue or the symptom of the issue?
Have a great day.
Jacob Urlich 🌍
in reply to Unus Nemo • •Sir, may we look at this together, not as a conclusion, not as an ideology to be accepted or rejected, but as something to be observed directly?
You say that all negative behaviour springs from insecurity, and that loneliness is a form of that insecurity. But the moment we name something—“insecurity”, “lack of coping skills”—have we not already moved away from actually seeing it? The word is not the thing. The explanation is not the fact.
What is important is not whether loneliness is a symptom or a cause, but whether we can look at loneliness without escaping from it.
You ask: must one be isolated to be lonely? Obviously not. One may be surrounded by people, by noise, by relationships, and still feel this deep sense of emptiness. And one may be physically alone and yet not feel lonely at all. So loneliness is not dependent on outward conditions.
Then what is it?
If you observe it in yourself, without judgement, without trying to overcome it, you may see that loneliness is a sense of inner emptiness, a feeling of be
... Show more...Sir, may we look at this together, not as a conclusion, not as an ideology to be accepted or rejected, but as something to be observed directly?
You say that all negative behaviour springs from insecurity, and that loneliness is a form of that insecurity. But the moment we name something—“insecurity”, “lack of coping skills”—have we not already moved away from actually seeing it? The word is not the thing. The explanation is not the fact.
What is important is not whether loneliness is a symptom or a cause, but whether we can look at loneliness without escaping from it.
You ask: must one be isolated to be lonely? Obviously not. One may be surrounded by people, by noise, by relationships, and still feel this deep sense of emptiness. And one may be physically alone and yet not feel lonely at all. So loneliness is not dependent on outward conditions.
Then what is it?
If you observe it in yourself, without judgement, without trying to overcome it, you may see that loneliness is a sense of inner emptiness, a feeling of being nothing, of not being connected. And immediately the mind tries to escape—from that feeling—through relationships, beliefs, activities, knowledge, even explanations such as “it is insecurity” or “lack of coping”.
Those escapes may be clever, even intellectual, but they do not end loneliness.
So is loneliness the problem, or is the problem the movement of escape from what is?
If you do not escape—if you remain with that feeling, without naming it, without trying to fill it—then something entirely different takes place. Then you are not separate from loneliness; you are that loneliness. And in that observation, without division, there is a transformation.
Not through effort, not through coping, not through analysis—but through direct perception.
So perhaps the question is not what causes loneliness, nor how to manage it, but whether the mind can look at it without running away.
In that very seeing, there is the ending of it.
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I am getting ready to go to work. I will be back when I have time to give your thoughtful reply justice.
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So, you are announcing that you are an AI bot?
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Your nick came up in a moderation report on my Instance. I came here to see if it held merit. I believed it did not, now you give me pause.